knowing me

How do you get people to "get it" when they don't get it? Doesn't the fact that I have to explain what "get it" means and what it entails suggests that the other party doesn't get it?

And what is a good gauge on how well a person knows you?

When a person understands your moods and knows when you don't mean some things you say. When a person buys you a packet of Spirited Away bookmarks when she is browsing at a Pasar Malam. When a person drops you a message at the right time. When someone writes you a note on pretty paper. When someone ships you a scrapbooking album for your bday. When someone buys you the chocolate pie because she remembers you saying you like it. When someone knows when to say something comforting. When someone knows when you need to hear his voice, and calls. When someone lends you a book you like. When someone buys you frivolous stickers. When someone brings you to a concert you've been hankering to go. When a person spends lazy Sundays with you. When someone cares about the unimportant things you care so much about.

Words are all very well but action speaks louder than words sometimes.